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Preventing Holiday Meltdowns: A Quick Guide for Overwhelmed Parents

Dec 03, 2024

The holidays are exciting, but they can also be overwhelming for kids—and that can lead to meltdowns. Whether it’s the overstimulation of a busy gathering or the emotional highs and lows of the season, holiday meltdowns are common. Here’s how parents can help reduce the chance of meltdowns by preparing in advance.

1. Identify Common Triggers

Knowing what might overwhelm your child can help you prevent meltdowns.

Common Triggers:
-Overstimulation from crowds, lights, or noise.
-Disrupted routines.
-Pressure to behave a certain way
-Frequent Transitions

2. Stick to a Predictable Routine

Kids thrive on routine, so try to maintain their usual schedule as much as possible.

Tip: Plan naps, meals, and quiet time around events to keep them balanced.

3. Prepare Them in Advance

Help your child feel more secure by explaining what to expect during holiday events and by using "I wonder" statements to get them thinking.

You might say something like, “We’re going to Grandma’s house. There will be a lot of people, but we’ll take breaks if it gets too loud.”

"I Wonder" statements can be very helpful to get your child thinking about what their experience may be like. For example, "I wonder what snacks they will have at the party?" "I wonder if it will be noisy?" "I wonder if I will need a break in a quiet space if it starts to feel like too much." Your child doesn't even need to answer these questions. Just putting them out there will be helpful as your child mulls them over.

4. Create a Calm Space

Provide a quiet, sensory-friendly space where your child can retreat if they feel overwhelmed. Go prepared! And, be prepared to leave an even early if your child is having a hard time. Sometimes, calling the evening before it becomes too much is just what the doctor ordered.

What to Include in a calm space:
• A cozy blanket.
• Noise-canceling headphones.
• Their favorite comfort item.

5. Manage Your Own Stress

Children often mirror their parents’ emotions. Staying calm can help them regulate their own feelings.

Tip: Practice deep breathing or take short breaks to reset when needed.

Final Thoughts

Holiday meltdowns are a normal part of the season, but with a little preparation and empathy, you can help your child navigate these moments with less stress. Remember, the holidays aren’t about perfection—they’re about connection.

What’s your go-to strategy for preventing holiday meltdowns? Share in the comments below!

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Dr. Emma Hostetter (Aparently Parenting)

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